Our September Hivery Circle with Radha Agrawal was one for the books! It was a deeply inspiring evening focused on belonging, and our universal need to come together in community. Known to many of us as the co-founder and CEO of Daybreaker, a company that puts on sunrise dance parties all over the world (if you haven’t gone, sign up for the next one - they are EPIC), Radha took to The Hivery stage with our very own Grace Kraaijvanger to discuss her latest creation, her book BELONG: Find Your People, Create Community and Live A More Connected Life.
“The first sentence in my book is ‘When I turned thirty, I realized I didn’t belong,’” she told the crowd. Radha’s vulnerability didn’t stop there. She explained in detail how, at 30, she’d found herself surrounded by people who weren’t inspiring, and doing things that didn’t reflect her values. She spent the next several years building a more nourishing community and launched Daybreaker in December 2013, a community that has now extended to more than 25 cities and has upwards of 500,000 members.
In addition to explaining her background, she offered clear, actionable takeaways on how everyone can build the communities of their dreams. Just a few of her nuggets of wisdom included:
Her CRAWL method, an acronym for how to build a community, but also a message of patience. “It’s a reminder that building a sustained community takes time,” Radha said. “We built Daybreaker over five years.”
The importance of rituals in community. At Daybreaker, participants are greeted by hugging committees rather than imposing-looking bouncers. “I cannot tell you how many people have cried on my shoulder over the years,” she explained. “We all need human touch; I think I’ve hugged upwards of 10,000 people in five years. It is so powerful.”
When building a community, Radha explained that it is paramount to choose people wisely. “We launched Daybreaker by creating a carefully curated list of 300 people that would define the energetic mix of our core community,” she said. “When creating a community, those choices must be very thoughtful to create the energetic centrifuge that you want.”
She also talked about the so-called “mean girls of our minds.” “We all have a cafeteria in our minds where there are mean girls sitting at a table with their pink jackets on filled with comparison, judgement and perfectionism,” she said, to a laughing (read: knowing) crowd. “It’s up to us to find our soul sisters and sit with them instead.”
More than anything, Radha explained the importance of creating community from a space of authenticity. “If you want to build something, it has to be from the heart.”
We are so thankful to Radha for sharing her wisdom and her time.
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