Hivery Circle

Hivery Circle: Radha Agrawal, author of BELONG • September 2018

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Our September Hivery Circle with Radha Agrawal was one for the books! It was a deeply inspiring evening focused on belonging, and our universal need to come together in community. Known to many of us as the co-founder and CEO of Daybreaker, a company that puts on sunrise dance parties all over the world (if you haven’t gone, sign up for the next one - they are EPIC), Radha took to The Hivery stage with our very own Grace Kraaijvanger to discuss her latest creation, her book BELONG: Find Your People, Create Community and Live A More Connected Life.

“The first sentence in my book is ‘When I turned thirty, I realized I didn’t belong,’” she told the crowd. Radha’s vulnerability didn’t stop there. She explained in detail how, at 30, she’d found herself surrounded by people who weren’t inspiring, and doing things that didn’t reflect her values. She spent the next several years building a more nourishing community and launched Daybreaker in December 2013, a community that has now extended to more than 25 cities and has upwards of 500,000 members.

In addition to explaining her background, she offered clear, actionable takeaways on how everyone can build the communities of their dreams. Just a few of her nuggets of wisdom included:

  • Her CRAWL method, an acronym for how to build a community, but also a message of patience. “It’s a reminder that building a sustained community takes time,” Radha said. “We built Daybreaker over five years.”

  • The importance of rituals in community. At Daybreaker, participants are greeted by hugging committees rather than imposing-looking bouncers. “I cannot tell you how many people have cried on my shoulder over the years,” she explained. “We all need human touch; I think I’ve hugged upwards of 10,000 people in five years. It is so powerful.”

  • When building a community, Radha explained that it is paramount to choose people wisely. “We launched Daybreaker by creating a carefully curated list of 300 people that would define the energetic mix of our core community,” she said. “When creating a community, those choices must be very thoughtful to create the energetic centrifuge that you want.”

  • She also talked about the so-called “mean girls of our minds.” “We all have a cafeteria in our minds where there are mean girls sitting at a table with their pink jackets on filled with comparison, judgement and perfectionism,” she said, to a laughing (read: knowing) crowd. “It’s up to us to find our soul sisters and sit with them instead.”

More than anything, Radha explained the importance of creating community from a space of authenticity. “If you want to build something, it has to be from the heart.”

We are so thankful to Radha for sharing her wisdom and her time.

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Hivery Circle: Thriving in Midlife • May 8, 2018

Amy

Dear Hivery Community,

Thank you so much for joining us for last night's Hivery Circle! We were so thrilled to welcome to the stage authors Amy Nobile and Trisha Ashworth, co-founders of Ash + Ames, to chat about their new book Just When You’re Comfortable In Your Own Skin, It Starts to Sag: Rewriting the Rules of Midlife, in conversation with our very own Grace Kraaijvanger, The Hivery Founder.

So many of you showed up for this conversation about "midlife" and we feel as though it's a conversation that needs to keep happening! Last night's discussion was honest and vulnerable and real—thank you for participating and making this an unforgettable Hivery evening. Amy and Trisha shared freely about their own experiences, the experiences of the women they interviewed, how we as women can redefine what the word "midlife" means, and how, by creating communities of women, we can change the paradigm of how the world looks at aging.

A few highlights included these insightful comments from Amy and Trisha:

“We are not our mother’s generation. We are not having our mother’s midlife.”

“We change the paradigm by first looking inside.
When your confidence soars, magical things start happening.”

“Our generation is so productive that many of us are achieving success far earlier than our mothers and asking ourselves why we don’t feel fulfilled. The truth is, our mom’s had different definitions of success. So many of us equate success with accomplishments, which don’t necessarily make us happy. What if we thought success was having an amazing laugh with a friend or taking time out for ourselves during the day?”

“We must ask ourselves, ‘What do I want right now?’
And then give ourselves the permission to go for it.”

It was such a pleasure to see you and welcome so many new faces last night. Thank you for showing up, doing the work, and making this such a supportive, authentic community of #womendoingcoolstuff.

With love,

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Gratitude to our Event Collaborators:

Wine provided by True Myth
Photography by Kim Thompson Steel
Audio / Visual by MavMedia
Flower arrangements by Sara Marshall Flowers

Hivery Circle: Being Boss • April 17, 2018

Emily Thompson (Being Boss co-author), Grace Kraaijvanger (Founder of The Hivery), and Kathleen Shannon (Being Boss co-author)

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Dear Beautiful Community,

The energy from last night’s Hivery Circle evening event was electric! What an incredible night starting off with a moving dance performance from Stacey Printz, artistic director of the Printz Dance Project. And then a beautifully heartfelt introduction by Sophie Davies and Jenni Brown, Hivery members and co-founders of Prim’d Marketing. These dynamic, creative women set the stage for an incredibly fun and open discussion with Being Boss authors and podcast pros, Kathleen Shannon and Emily Thompson.

These business besties, who run the podcast Being Boss (amazing guests, thought-provoking conversations and 5 million downloads) made us laugh, inspired us to show up, gave us practical tips, and pushed us to Get Out of Our Comfort Zone—our April theme at The Hivery.

Here are some highlights that stuck with us:
“We decided: let’s go on a business bestie vacation. And, what if we invited some of our podcast members? Seventy-five people came on vacation with us in New Orleans. Getting that face-to-face time with them was where the magic happened. Inviting your podcast to come on vacation with you...that’s putting yourself out there.”

“Routines can be what we rely on during times of transition and can carrying us through. ... And, sometimes we can routine ourselves into a rut. ... Give yourself room in your day for being creative for fun. ... Remember, we are creatives and creating can get us out of ruts.”

And, most importantly of all...
“We figured it out as we went. ... We didn’t polish any rocks. We threw stones through glass ceilings and saw what worked. ... You just have to hit publish.”

It was such a pleasure to welcome so many new faces to The Hivery last night. And, we want to remind you that we're here for you and we want to help you be as “boss” as you’d like! 

In community,

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Gratitude to our Event Collaborators:

Performance by Printz Dance Project
Wine provided by Belden Barns
Light Bites by Urban Remedy
Photography by Kim Thompson Steel
Audio / Visual by MavMedia
Flower arrangements by Sara Marshall Flowers

The Hivery Circle Speakers Spotlight: Bristol Baughan & Nikola Love

This February, we are exploring the topic of Mindfulness through blog posts and events, including the Tuesday, Feb 13 Hivery Circle, where a group of multidimensional speakers will take The Hivery stage in a TED-style evening. We look forward to welcoming Gina Vance, CCHT, who will start us off with an Opening Mind/Body Meditation and lead us into our panel of featured guests:

We recently had the opportunity to sit down in advance of the event with two of our featured panelists—Bristol Baughan and Nikola Love—and we are excited to share their stories and insights with you!

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Bristol Baughan

Hi Bristol! We would love it if you could tell us a little about your background.
Growing up, I was really ambitious. I was on a mission to change the world and ended up working at the White House and then moving to L.A. to make movies. My idea was that if I could make a film that inspired and engaged people, it would make change. I led with an energy of achievement until I was around 29 years old.

 

What happened then?
I got depressed and burned out, and decided to take a break and travel. People said I was crazy. From the outside, it looked like I was living this fabulous life, but the truth was, I was working myself into the ground and didn’t have any self-care. I was sacrificing myself on the altar of doing for others. It was then that I had to question the beliefs that were unconsciously running my mind.

What has happened since you quit?
It’s been an experiment of me trying to discover what practices help me feel a sense of connection and aliveness. Meditation has helped. I’ve been on a mission to find my heart and my soul and discover what the hell that even means. It’s taken me to India and Thailand, among other places. Since then, I’ve gotten my masters degree in spiritual psychology, created a one-woman play called Judge-A-Holic about my road to recovery, started writing blogs and created Inner Astronauts, where I coach groups of women as well as do one-on-one coaching. About six months ago, I dreamt that I wanted to be in the redwoods and decided to move to Marin from LA.

What advice can you offer to women who want to get into mindfulness but feel a little intimidated?
I recommend setting easy goals. Start by meditating two minutes per week. Even that can be really powerful. There are tons of apps out there to help, but it’s like dating—you want to find the practice that helps you feel connected and alive. I think it’s all about starting to question the panic in our minds and asking: What is the mind so afraid will happen if we slow down and observe it? Often the answer will lead to freedom.

 

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Nikola Love

It's so wonderful to meet you, Nikola! Please tell us about your background.
Sure! I’m based in Los Angeles and own Special Place Productions with my husband. We do both film, photography and art. I did my training in sacred commerce, communications, and film. I really love motion imagery and storytelling, but when we first started out, we found that we didn’t feel aligned with a lot of the work we were getting on things like commercials, so we decided to create a production company aligned with our mission statement of doing
good and spreading beauty and positivity
in the world.

What are you working on now?
We are working on our 3D scanning company, as well as on art, music videos, marketing promotional videos, and we’re really excited about transitioning into creating in the virtual reality space with a conscious mindset.

What do you mean by “a conscious mindset?”
I find that a lot of work in the VR space—be it games or movies—revolves around violence. We are dedicated to making beautiful things with VR; right now we’re working on a project relating to our spiritual connection with animals and the environment.

How does mindfulness manifest in your life?
I try to be in a mindful place no matter what I’m doing, be it packing groceries or talking with a friend or "working.” I find that when I get quiet with myself, I’m able to live from a higher place, a more mindful place. I try to be in that space and be mindful to serve the highest outcome for the planet and myself even if a decision doesn’t seem logically sound.

I try and live by a few power ideals:

Treat yourself, others, animals and the planet with love and respect and always take the awakened path in all communications and actions.

  1. Always lead by intuition.

  2. Do things in a way you're proud of.

  3. Follow your inner voice/guide above all. ALWAYS.

  4. Don’t do anything because it is considered the “proper way” to do it. Paint outside the lines and envision new and bold alternatives to the "common reality" that raises the vibration.

What advice can you offer to women who want to get into mindfulness, but feel a little intimidated?
I think there is a grand illusion around the concept of mindfulness that isn’t super helpful—that you have to sit and meditate for hours to be mindful. Instead, I believe in an integrated approach to spirituality. As long as you have intention behind what you do, anything can be considered a mindfulness practice—anything from picking your kids up from school to folding clothes to running a business.

I believe that being present in the moment is the biggest connector to mindfulness. If you are being completely present—even doing the most menial tasks—you are practicing mindfulness beautifully.


Register in advance to join in the conversation with Bristol, Nikola,
and our amazing guests as we explore Mindfulness on Tuesday, Feb 13, 7-9pm.

Mind.Full.Ness…
where the mind is full of the essence of life.